Adventures of Supermommy

April 23, 2010

Learning How to Let Things Slide

Filed under: Parenting — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 1:02 am

My house is not clean and tidy.  It probably never will be unless I have hired help and a babysitter.  There are always toys on the floor, dishes in the sink, at least one load of laundry that needs to be washed, and a pile of mail that needs to be gone through.  You just have to learn that this is the way of life when you don’t have a butler like Alfred to clean up after you.  Am I happy about this?  Not exactly, but I just have learned how to deal with it.

The important thing is this–Is your house safe enough for your kids and you?  It’s one thing to have last night’s dishes in the sink, but is there mold growing on dishes from last week?  Do you and your kids have clothes to wear?  Is the living room a tripping/falling hazard?  Are the kids going hungry?  If any of this is true, then you can’t let it slide.

What things do I let slide?  Making the bed, cutting the grass, cleaning out the closet (which you have to do often when you have kids that grow out of clothes so quickly), and picking up the toys (to a point).

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April 21, 2010

Lists, Goals and Priorities

Filed under: Parenting — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 12:59 am

I am a list-maker.  I think I get it from my mother.  While I’m sitting there breastfeeding Aby, I can make a list of the things that need to get done on my Blackberry since Kaylee will want my paper and pencil if it’s in reach.  Once it’s all down on the list, I can prioritize what needs to get done first and let the rest slide until I have the time to do it.  Getting things crossed off the list is encouraging!  At the end of the day, you can see what all you got accomplished.

I’m also guilty of breaking down tasks into every little aspect of the job.  Instead of “Laundry”, it’s Gather laundry, Sort laundry, Wash laundry, Put away laundry, etc, because in all honestly, it might take me a few days to complete all of those steps.  I’m not totally silly about it, I don’t put things on there like going to the bathroom or feeding the kids, but it still helps me to know what is important to get done, as well as sharing the chores with your sidekick.  Big projects that are going to require help might need to be scheduled ahead of time, when you have enough hands on deck to take care of things, so having them on the list reminds you to keep those in mind when you will actually have enough people around.

Getting your priorities straight is important.  Taking care of a screaming baby or kissing a booboo is more important than loading the dishwasher.  Keeping the house safe for everybody is more important than making the bed (which I almost never do), which leads me to my next topic: Learning how to let things slide (coming soon).

April 19, 2010

Accepting Help and Learning How to Delegate

Filed under: Parenting — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 12:56 am

Every super hero needs a sidekick and/or support staff.  Batman had Robin and don’t forget Alfred!  Ironman had Pepper to look after him.  At this point, I salute single parents.  I wouldn’t be able to do it if I were on my own.

I will be totally honest, this is my weakest point.  I see something that needs doing and I do it, even if it wears me out completely by the end of the day.  It drives my husband crazy.  I am trying to get better, I really am!  Here are  my thoughts on the matter:

1.  If it takes longer to explain how you want it done or to ask to do it, just do it yourself.

2.  If you have a particular way you want something done and your sidekick doesn’t do it the way you want it done, just do it yourself and save yourself the drama.  For example, I fold the bath towels a certain way so they’ll fit in the linen closet better.  My husband folds them differently.  Hence, I just fold the towels the way I want it done.  It doesn’t bother me to leave them in the laundry basket until I have time to fold them.

3.  If it’s easier to get someone else to do it, just ask.  It’s easier to ask my husband to stop at the store and pick up milk on his way home from work than it is to get all of us dressed and loaded up in the car and go to the store.

4.  Family members are usually glad to come over and play with the kids while you do chores.  Having someone to keep the kids out of trouble and play with them can earn you valuable time to do things.  You can still take the time out to change diapers if your helper doesn’t want to or fix them something to eat, but fifteen minutes can load the dishwasher, (or check your email, or pay bills… ) right?

5.  Divvy up the chores around the house.  What chores is your sidekick good at doing or willing to do?  If you don’t trust your sidekick to sort the laundry the way you want it done, you sort the laundry and let them do the rest.  One of you pick up the toys and the other can vacuum.

April 16, 2010

Taking Care of Yourself

Filed under: Parenting — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 12:52 am

You often hear the phrase “Sleep when your baby sleeps” and most mothers laugh at the principle.  It’s true.  You’re not going to be able to do anything if you’re tired and run-down, so you might as well learn to let the dishes sit in the sink until later and get a little shut-eye.  This is especially true for parents with young infants that aren’t quite sleeping through the night yet.  Healthcare providers will tell you over and over that not getting enough sleep is not good for you.  Your body needs time to rest and recuperate, they’ve done studies that you can lose weight or maintain your weight when you get enough sleep, and you’ll be able to stave off getting sick if you’re not run down.  Do the research, after you’ve had a nap.

Get yourself “dressed” at least a few times a week.  Wash your face and moisturize or whatever your skin care regiment is.  I’m not saying you’ve got to get up and wear makeup and style your hair all the time, but wear something other than pajamas or sweats all the time.  Put on some clothes that fit and flatter your figure at least a little bit like a pair of jeans that fit, and it’ll boost your self esteem.  I’m not saying wear your nicest outfit, it has to be washable of course, we’re not getting silly here.

Keep current on your medicines and doctor’s appointments.  If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of your kids as well.

I’m not even going to tell you about getting exercise.  I don’t follow an exercise program, I have a toddler and an infant to keep up with.  My idea of lifting weights is picking up the kids, especially the car seat.  I get enough cardio chasing after Kaylee, not to mention doing things like vacuuming the floor, picking up laundry, doing dishes…you get the idea.  If you want help kicking it up a notch, put on some music or wear one earbud of your MP3 player (so you can still hear the kids, of course), and dance around a little bit.  It’ll make you feel good.  And dance like no one’s watching of course!  Shake your booty!  Your kids will not only not care, but they’ll probably love it and dance around with you, and getting them exercising early is one of the best things you can do for your kids.  Lead by example, they say.

Which leads me to the next point:  Eat right.  You’re trying to feed your kids healthy foods anyway, right?  I’m not saying takeout is a sin, but don’t rely on it.  It’s cheaper to cook things at home anyway, right?  I try to limit fast food to one or two times a week, when you absolutely can not manage to cook something.  Your pediatrician will be proud of you.  **I will do my best to post some recipes and tips on how I manage to cook a decent dinner in very little time (and cheap, too).  Find some recipes that you can cook ahead or freeze, re-make the leftovers into something else, etc.

April 15, 2010

The Mission Begins

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 12:51 am

“Remember, the important thing is to have healthy, happy kids—not necessarily a clean house.  If you survive with most of your sanity, that’s an added bonus.”

I am a stay at home mom with two beautiful little girls.  Kaylee is almost two years old and Abigayle (Aby) is two months old.  Somehow I manage to feed both of them, keep a not-so-clean house, and sometimes I can fit in a craft project or two.  I often hear “I don’t know how you get it all done with the two of them.”  Sometimes, I don’t know how I get it done, either.  My girls are happy and healthy, though, and that’s the most important part.

This blog is about my opinions on child-rearing, tips on how to get anything done and my observations on the world and a place for me to brag about my babies.  If you don’t agree with any of my opinions, that is not only okay but welcomed.  Some of these things may work for me but not for you, and that’s okay.  I just hope you find something useful or even thought-provoking.

Like I said, I’m a stay at home married mother.  My deepest respect goes to working parents, stay at home dads, and single mothers.  You are all super-heroes to me!  So if I say anything that seems to be gender-specific, don’t take offense.  I only hope you can get something out of my ramblings, if only a tip here and there or even just a few laughs.  Even people without kids might find a few tips here.

March 4, 2010

The Beginning

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: — adventuresofsupermommy @ 3:04 pm

This blog started out as a joking text conversation between my friend Jenny and myself. I was telling her about my day and said something about being a SuperMom for the day and she said I needed a cape. Eventually, we decided that I needed a polka-dotted cape and costume complete with food stains and spit up on the shoulders.

In the real world, I am a stay at home mom with a 19 month old daughter and 3 week old newborn daughter. Juggling the two of them isn’t easy, but somehow I have managed to keep the two of them fed and alive without major injuries or insanity. I have a wonderful husband who helps me as much as possible (yes, daddy changes diapers). He will be known as my sidekick, Geekdad, whose mild-mannered alter-ego is the Labyrinthine Librarian. (his blog is LabyrinthineLibrary.wordpress.com)

This blog will be not only my daily adventures with the two of them as well as me bragging on my babies, but my thoughts about parenting, venting my frustrations, and just my general take on the world.

Please note, I will be posting things in between chasing after my little ones, etc. So if there are typos or grammatical errors, cut me some slack. *grin*

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